Fun fact: I never watched Gilmore Girls first time around. So, since October, I've been working my way through all seven series (I'm almost at the end—Lorelai is dating Christopher, but I'm pretty sure it won't last…). My boyfriend complains that he has lost me to the "world's most boring show." Little does he know how much of a profound effect Lorelai and Rory have had on me. For starters, I've adopted a Gilmore Girls diet, which means I've ditched all the foods I felt I should eat, in favour of eating what I wanted. I have fed my soul for the past three months, and you know what? The world didn't end, and I'm not obese. Sure, I've put on a couple of pounds, but boy, am I happier.
I've also learnt from Rory that putting unrealistic expectations and pressure on yourself isn't the route to happiness or going to get you exactly where you want, when you want (admittedly, I haven't watched the Gilmore Girls: A Year in the Life, but I'm pretty sure that idea will still ring true). So this year, I'm practising self-care—and yes, I know it's a trendy buzzword right now. But I'm over making unrealistic resolutions and unnecessarily stressing myself out in the quest for some unobtainable vision of how I think I should be. On 31 December 2016, I made a list of 12 (yes, 12!) New Year's resolutions. I managed three of them (mastering a pull-up, giving up the sidebar of shame and going on holiday). Now, some might say, Well, at least you succeeded with those, and you're right, but I don't see them as a win. Instead, they're a constant reminder that I didn't achieve the other nine resolutions (and I'm usually a glass-half-full kinda person).
Inspired by my newfound relaxed attitude to life, I'm saying we should all aspire to real, doable goals. Hence the title of this month's editor's letter: "Real Girls, Real Goals."
This year, we're encouraging you, dear reader, to join us in setting realistic goals—small but significant changes. And we'll be empowering you to make a change, be it beauty- or wellness-related, by ensuring you have the toolkit you need to make it happen. Sure, you'll find the usual diet and New Year content on the site, but we'll also be showing you how making tiny tweaks can have just as a profound effect on your well-being as major life overhauls. As a source of inspiration and learning, we'll be profiling women who have made small but significant changes.
This month, we'll be providing you with the kit you need to succeed: expert advice from behavioural change therapists, crystal healers and more.
There will be advice on how to be healthier on a budget: frugal but fit, as we like to call it because wellness is a big business, and we're all strapped for cash at this time of the year. Plus, we'll be offering up helpful prompts on Instagram throughout the month to keep you on track.
This January, I'm factoring in more fresh fruit and vegetables because I can't follow the less-than-healthy diet of fictional TV characters forever without repercussions, and I'm heading to a yoga class on Saturday with no misplaced expectation that I'll become the next Yoga Girl. I'm ditching those unrealistic expectations, and instead, we at Byrdie HQ want to set ourselves, and you, up to succeed this year with real, attainable goals.
Who's with us?