I’ve spent the last few days straining my neck, trying to get a glimpse of the moon from my bedroom window. I had to ask Google for its exact coordinates, but then I realised I didn’t actually know how to use my iPhone’s compass app to find it (modern mystic problems).
My obsession with the moon is just one of the side effects I’ve had after coming out of the spiritual closet last year. All this mystical stuff is like opening one new tab online—before you know it, your entire browser is full. Blending therapeutic essential oils led me to tarot, reiki, chakra clearing, crystal healing and casting spells. I mean, I just bought a pendulum instead of the Maria Tash earrings I wanted. And now it’s the moon I’m getting myself acquainted with.
And I’m not alone: There’s now an ever-increasing number of women who are connecting with the moon as part of their spiritual practice. Working with the phases of the moon and moon rituals are a great way to delve deeper into astrology, emotions and intuition, and for some women, it’s even a useful tool for syncing and better understanding their menstrual cycle.
It might be gaining in popularity, but using the moon to guide your spirituality can sometimes be a lonely path, especially if the people around you in the physical world are the human embodiment of the eye-rolling emoji. That’s why Ruby Warrington, founder of online spiritual platform The Numinous and author of spiritual self-help guide Material Girl, Mystical World launched Moon Club with her co-founder, Alexandra Roxo, after recognising this need for having a buddy.
“By creating a space online for this exploration, we wanted to make moon magic, astrology and ritual easily accessible for people who may have been feeling isolated on their journey, and the constant feedback we get is that Moon Club has helped them feel supported on their path, more confident in themselves and has connected them to a community they feel safe to express their mystical side with,” Warrington tells me.
If you’ve spent numerous hours on NASA’s educational moon page (okay, maybe just me) or you’ve wanted to start working with the moon in your mindfulness or self-care routine, here are four ways to get started.
Utilise the moon's manifesting magic
Setting intentions or manifesting helps to call in different situations, circumstances or goals into your life. They can be as specific as attracting £1000 to pay off a credit card bill, the Ganni dress on your wish list or finding time to commit to a meditation or journaling practice. When I started tuning in to the moon’s cycles, I was able to gain clarity on what I wanted and chart the progress over the 29.5 days of the cycle. The new moon is associated with beginnings, starting projects and defining what you want to attract, so this is a good day to set intentions. The full moon, on the other hand, celebrates what you’ve manifested and completed—a time for reflection.
A good way to start is to dust off your journal and write a list of what you want to bring into your life. At the beginning, I found it easier to focus on one intention at a time. I then turned it into a ceremony of sorts by lighting a candle, having a corresponding crystal or herbs on hand and just taking the time to think about what I wanted. Every modern mystic/witch/spiritual gangster/astrology buff has a moon app on their phone, which lets you know what stage of the cycle the moon is in. I use one aptly called The Moon. That way you can schedule in your moon manifestation in advance if you find it hard to take time out.
Have a new moon ritual bath
There’s something incredibly soothing about having a moon-themed ritual bath. I’ve found that a bath on the night of the new moon acts as a first course for the rest of my moon practices. You can begin by dimming the lights, burning your favourite candles and running a bath.
Think about the intentions you’d like to set for this ritual. If you’re focused on your finances and bringing in more money, tailor the ingredients you drop into the water for this. So you can add in a money-boosting crystal like citrine followed by an abundance-boosting essential oil blend of bergamot, cinnamon and patchouli. I dilute these in Neal’s Yard Remedies Create Your Own Bath Oil Base (£9), as undiluted essential oils can irritate the skin.
To help alleviate anxiety and for deep relaxation, you can use neroli, marjoram and clary sage essential oils with black tourmaline, lepidolite and blue lace agate crystals. My go-to self-love/romantic love recipe includes heart chakra–balancing essential oils of rose otto, ylang-ylang and patchouli with a big chunk of rose quartz. If you’re about to delve into some magical work and want to boost your intuition or psychic prowess, combine frankincense, sandalwood and myrrh oils with amethyst and labradorite crystals, and I usually do this one before meditating, casting spells or working with tarot cards.
For the last touches, you can add some dried flowers, such as lavender and hibiscus, followed by a glug of whole-fat milk for added skin-smoothing benefits. Finish up by clearing any negative energies by smudging yourself and the bathroom with the smoke of palo santo or sage before stepping into the bath. Then all you have to do is unplug and relax.
Use the moon as a mirror to yourself
We’re all guilty of constantly replaying the everyday stresses we face, worrying about the emails we forgot to send, oh and that one time someone stepped on our foot on the train. I found it surprisingly reassuring when I wanted to take some time away from my busy mind to just be able to look up at the moon and realise that those small thoughts suddenly don’t feel so big in comparison to what’s out there in the universe.
Ruby Warrington echoes this. “In astrology, the moon represents our emotional body and inner world, and being aware of where I’m at in the cycle helps create a framework and a language for how I may be feeling at any given time,” she explains. “The tools we talk about in Moon Club [help you feel] more connected to your true/whole self. This often means getting really comfortable and confident about owning and honouring your different emotional states, as represented by the [phases of the] moon.”
I usually honour these emotions by doing a mini meditation just before bed during the waning phase, as the moon transitions from full to new. Find a quiet space where you can sit or lie down and start focusing on your breath, and pay attention to the rising and falling of your abdomen as you inhale and exhale. Visualise all the finer details of the moon—how bright it is, the craters, its position in the sky—and feel its calming energy wash over your body and release any tension.
Find your moon tribe
Our interest in astrology has evolved past a quick check of our horoscopes in the paper. Now mercury in retrograde has somehow become the latest scapegoat for most of our problems, and more and more of us are becoming fascinated by the moon. So much so that there are now moon workshops, events and circles popping up in cities like L.A., NYC and London every day. They provide an opportunity for people to gather, share space, set intentions and celebrate the moon’s cycles as a group. I have regular meetups with my fellow beauty industry friend/mystic maven, and we do everything from meditating to reading tarot cards and just talking about life. Having that connection and time to share with someone else is so rewarding.
You can get involved digitally by joining Moon Club, searching for new moon and full moon events in your area, or if there’s not one nearby, just start your own. Sign up to Yasmin Boland’s Moonology newsletter in which she gives a daily rundown of what sign the moon is in so you can theme your moon club and invite some friends over.